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sassySloth
03-27-2014, 08:39 PM
Hey ho. I'm wondering how your friends react when they learn that you are a furry. I don't want this to turn into "I do or do not tell my friends I'm a furry because..."

I just want to know: If your friends know you are a furry how does it affect them? Have you ever lost friends because of it? Stories like that.

I ask because the situation with my friends periodically gets awkward. So my roommates and close friends know I'm a furry. I casually told them as much and I have werewolves and ponies and shit all over my room. But with my friends it's really like a 'don't ask don't tell' situation. They know I'm a furry and obviously we're still very close, but anytime anything anthro related pops up around me they get visibly put off.

I noticed it with Space Dandy because whenever there's a Meow-centric episode I'm all "Awww yeah." And they just clam up like they don't want me 'be all furry'. This happens with any anthro characters though. It's really moot because like I said we're good friends, but idk.

What about you?????

Dire Newt
03-27-2014, 09:01 PM
It's only awkward if you make it awkward. My friends don't give a shit because I don't make a big deal about it.

Vae
03-27-2014, 09:03 PM
The grand majority of my friends aren't familiar with internet culture at all, and don't even know what furry is.
The very few that do, and do know that I have some furry interests, don't give a single shit.
One of my friends asks me things about furries from time to time, when he encounters stuff about them in other places. That's about it.

JackalTeeth
03-27-2014, 09:33 PM
Any friends outside of the community haven't cared. They'll even share things related to anthros with me because they know it'd pertain to my interest!

Batty Krueger
03-27-2014, 09:36 PM
None of my friends care, especially considering that most of my friends are furs as well. My non fur friends think it's neat, they don't really care for some of the more adult artwork I have hanging in my room, but they don't judge me for my liking of it. One non fur friend in particular always puts a post it note over the sheath and balls on one of my fox pin ups, lol. We both think its pretty funny. He's very supportive and has gone with me a couple times to the local furcon called CaliFur.

Rory
03-28-2014, 03:54 PM
It's only awkward if you make it awkward. My friends don't give a shit because I don't make a big deal about it.

This so, so, so hard.



Any friends outside of the community haven't cared. They'll even share things related to anthros with me because they know it'd pertain to my interest!

This happened to me a lot in college. People kinda figured out I was a furry or at least really into animal stuff from my room. They knew I was chill enough about it that they could joke about it to me, but sometimes I had some genuinely cool things and comments sent my way. I know it's not foolproof, but the less of a big deal you make about something like a hobby, the less people around you care about it.

Sax
03-28-2014, 04:04 PM
No one among my friends knows of the furry subculture so they have always reacted positively to the fact I draw porno anthro animals. They find this so unusual in a weird cool way.

lorenith
03-28-2014, 04:15 PM
My friends don't seem to care. They just think my drawings are cute/interesting/weird, but most of them are older and/or not super connected to the internet, so they don't really have any weird associations to make to begin with.


I also don't really call myself a furry, or anything even though I suppose I basically am. I think more people have judged me for openly loving and playing pokemon at the ripe old age of 27, than they do for my drawing anthros and things.

Tiger
03-28-2014, 07:20 PM
My friends and family don't care (immediate family). I never talk about it to my family but my friends and I make furry jokes all the time. All in good fun, really.

Ruggy
03-28-2014, 11:01 PM
Mostly they're... amused? I get a lot of, "No, man, that's cool," and grins.

I probably exacerbate the situation by being a little bashful about it. In fairness, sometimes my friends justify that.

"Oh, I can't go! I have a conflict that weekend."
"That's fine! Whatcha going to?"
"Uh... furry convention."
"What? C'mon, you know I don't give a shit."
"... A furry convention?"
"Oh, okay! Will there be yiffing?" Spoken as he laughs and elbows me. >:I

No serious judgments, though. Just lighthearted ribbing, pretty much. Sometimes I'll show them pieces I've drawn if I'm particularly proud of them, but mostly it's just a thing I do that they find kind of amusing. I've only ever mentioned it when it comes up in conversation, like when everyone had something going on the weekend of TFF. C'monnnn, guys.

Tiido
03-29-2014, 12:09 AM
I have one friend who makes yiff jokes about it... it seems he has come to a conclusion the whole furry thing is about sex lol. At least there's no hate haha.

Couple other non-furry friends who know about it are somewhat fascinated about it and couple more just accept it and all is good.

Most ofther people I have not told anything about it, there's just so much hate and misconceptions. Sometimes a conversation flows into the furry topic and it tends to be nothing beyond kinky animal sex... yeah, not going to continue the topic with the person lol.

AineCleine
03-29-2014, 01:24 AM
Is a secret for everyone I know. I sincerely donīt think is worth to mention it since Iīm barely in this as a hobby so... anyways, I donīt know anyone that is familiar to the term so isnīt even remotely mentioned.

TeenageAngst
03-29-2014, 03:34 AM
Most of my friends don't know, and those that do know don't care. I'm pretty sure some of the ones I've told have forgotten by now because it never really comes up. I think the only time it's ever a thing is when I either want to show off some writing or a commission I have done.

Hewge
03-29-2014, 03:50 AM
I don't have any friends! OHGOD

Carnau
03-30-2014, 04:02 PM
They think it's cool. Some of them even decided to make fursonas themselves.

Abbi Normal
03-30-2014, 04:36 PM
My boyfriend knows, and thinks it's a cool hobby to have, likes my art, etc. It would be more or less impossible not to know for him, since we live together, and I'd have to, like, lock myself int he bedroom half the day to draw and sew if I was gonna hide it, ha. I'm not sure out roommate has guessed yet, since I usually refer to furmeets among non-furry friends as just being a local artists group, which isn't really even not true. One or two friends of mine that I spend the most time with know because they drop by and I'm art-ing it up, and they're like, "Wazzat?" and I'm like, "She's a hyena" (I was drawing the pic I use as my avatar), and they're like, "Cool, cool. When you finish working on her arm there, can we watch this movie I brought?" and I'm like, "Sure". It doesn't have to be more complicated than that. And I find that calling things something other than furries will throw off a lot of non-furries. I can be blatantly drawing a wolf or a hyena anthro, and with most people, as long as I call them a werewolf and a gnoll, most people will take it as modern/urban fantasy art. Which it is. Especially since I draw them alongside things like Beholders a fair bit. Or refer to the sock-based feetpaws I'm working on as slippers, and people just kinda go with it (especially since I've made myself actual slippers before).

Loukas
03-31-2014, 01:48 AM
I don't draw or suit or anything, I'm just a watcher. But I had a tumblr once where I reblogged tame stuff and my friends discovered it because I accidentally messaged someone with it. Two of them poked fun at me for it and it freaked me out so I never talked to them again. I'm so alone.

Chromatica
03-31-2014, 03:13 AM
Only two of my friends know about it, one of whom is a furry himself (so he doesn't count). The other thinks the concept is a little bit odd but that's about all.

Aakosir
03-31-2014, 12:22 PM
Well... my one friend is a furry so it made no difference to her. I didn't know she was a furry for a while though. I was pleasantly surprised. Another, used-to-be-friend, was talking about the Strange Addictions episode and called her a "furer" so of course I had to correct and inform her. She didn't really seem to care, but that wasn't the best friendship so I honestly didn't care what her reaction was.

therainbowtroll
03-31-2014, 01:23 PM
My friends honestly dont care.

When they do make fun of me all I say is

"Yiff Yiff Whats the Tiff?"

sassySloth
03-31-2014, 04:30 PM
I don't draw or suit or anything, I'm just a watcher. But I had a tumblr once where I reblogged tame stuff and my friends discovered it because I accidentally messaged someone with it. Two of them poked fun at me for it and it freaked me out so I never talked to them again. I'm so alone.Hmm word.

It's true that being a furry is as awkward as you make it sound but at the same time people are going to have their own reactions to you telling them. A friends could get angry, feel betrayed, or whatever no matter how casually you inform them that you're a furry.

Matt Conner
03-31-2014, 04:30 PM
Not a soul knows except my girlfriend and the people I meet through the fandom. I'm sure my friends wouldn't give a shit, they'd just tease me a little from time to time, which we always do to each other anyways. My lady is super into it, in fact I wound up turning her into a total commission whore just like me after I helped her make up her fursona and then got her a first commission as a gift x3

TakiroRyn
03-31-2014, 10:51 PM
I've tried telling my friends and showing them before, what a fursona is and why I have one, and they just looked at me like I was some freak and just ignored me. It hurt my feelings that they didn't really accept that part of me, but they weren't my friends for long after that.

It was kinda the same way with my boyfriend and current mate, who when I first told him about it, he thought it was strange, but actually listened to what I had to tell him to understand. After a while he grew used to it and wanted to broaden himself in the furry community. I'm just glad I have him to include with this part of my life. My family doesn't really know about it though.

Billy MT
04-01-2014, 08:34 AM
Consider where I'm from, over there in the left. This is a country seriously underdeveloped in many things, internet being the main one. To the point that by popular opinion, if it's not on Facebook or Twitter, it mustn't exist :v Wish it was an exaggeration sometimes.

So whenever I'm spotted browsing furry stuff, I just go by with half-truths, and everything's peachy. My 'sona is my character, I'm a writer, in a circle of other artists. And usually that's when casual conversation ends. While we do have a small community in my country, it's so rare and unknown to people here that catching anyone browsing anything furry-related acts like a secret handshake XD Only someone from the middle would know~

Oh yeah, consider also that the normal citizen from here is also uneducated (blame poor/uncaring government for that). As in, they only know portuguese, their main language... And that's it. To the point that anything internet-wise here is pretty much a country-wide intranet :P Everyone's virtual activities are blissfully ignorant of anything happening outside our borders. That's why getting away with those half-truths is viable here.

StripedPan
04-01-2014, 07:31 PM
About maybe two or three of my friends know, along with my boyfriend and some family. Family wasn't too happy, but I honestly couldn't care less what they thought. Friends were pretty okay with it, we went to some conventions together and my friend actually ended up helping me buy my first tail! One of them didn't really understand and/or thought it was weird, but now she doesn't care. Boyfriend thought it was totally fine since he was into some of the fandom as well. He's happy that all I do is draw and craft some suit parts, cause he thinks that the more "adult" aspect of being a furry is somewhat odd, but that's totally fine with me. c:

Bri Mercedes
04-02-2014, 04:41 PM
A small aside: Furry should refer to your interests, not lifestyle or identity. It's like revealing to someone that you play Pokemon. Try not to find your identity in your fandom, it's not healthy. :P

I consider myself furry since I'm an illustrator that prefers drawing anthros and I build costumes. Anyone I show my art and costumes to (friends, family, strangers, old people) think it's cute! I think it's all in the way you talk about the furry fandom that turns people on or off. "I'm a furry" usually makes people think of the horrible stuff, whereas "This is what I draw/write" helps people appreciate you! :3

Matt Conner
04-02-2014, 05:44 PM
A small aside: Furry should refer to your interests, not lifestyle or identity. It's like revealing to someone that you play Pokemon. Try not to find your identity in your fandom, it's not healthy. :P

I consider myself furry since I'm an illustrator that prefers drawing anthros and I build costumes. Anyone I show my art and costumes to (friends, family, strangers, old people) think it's cute! I think it's all in the way you talk about the furry fandom that turns people on or off. "I'm a furry" usually makes people think of the horrible stuff, whereas "This is what I draw/write" helps people appreciate you! :3

That's an excellent point, Bri. That's really why I don't bother telling most people I'm a furry, because it's not really that pertinent to my self. If they happen to find out then cool, that's alright. Making it seem like it's your secret identity or something, and that your entire personality revolves around the fact that you find animal people aesthetically appealing, it tends to put most people off.

sassySloth
04-06-2014, 02:13 PM
A small aside: Furry should refer to your interests, not lifestyle or identity. It's like revealing to someone that you play Pokemon. Try not to find your identity in your fandom, it's not healthy. :PI'm aware, and it's not how I carry myself as a fur. I only tell friends I'm a furry to be upfront with them and to disambiguate. I'd rather I tell them casually than have them find out on their own and come to wrong conclusions.

Lunar_
04-06-2014, 03:48 PM
A lot of my friends don't care and most of them don't even know what the fandom is. I've kinda moved past fursuiting, but occasionally I'll suit while out with them for a laugh.

My girlfriend doesn't care too much for it, though. She thinks it's weird but she knows I'm not one of those furries, so she's cool with whatever floats my boat.

avan
04-06-2014, 04:03 PM
Never had any problems - but then again its not something I make a big deal about. Found a few other furs among my friends (And made my sister a furry). Our parents never minded (and have been somewhat supportive), except for dealing with me transporting a large number of fursuits & faux fur around to their house when i visit for a long stay.

General reactions were along the lines of 'oh hey, thats cool!' - people really love the fursuits though, sometimes to the point of believing they were made by some company >.> (got accused of lying once because i wasnt believed..)

JackalTeeth
04-07-2014, 12:32 AM
General reactions were along the lines of 'oh hey, thats cool!' - people really love the fursuits though, sometimes to the point of believing they were made by some company >.> (got accused of lying once because i wasnt believed..)

I've gotten this before too! Also people being completely blown away that artists hand make them on commission.

spacerogue
04-10-2014, 12:55 PM
A small aside: Furry should refer to your interests, not lifestyle or identity. It's like revealing to someone that you play Pokemon. Try not to find your identity in your fandom, it's not healthy. :P

this^
I'v seen a few of the so called 'coming out' things I just have to facepalm and hold back from ranting.


I do consider myself a furry, I don't suit or do any activities like cons tho. But that might change in the future who knows.
I'm pretty sure my friends know, its not something you have to tell. And if people don't know the therm then that's even better, I just say I draw anthro's or 'Fallout like stuff and weird creatures' but people in general don't pay attention, usually you'll end up 'that person that draws'.

Groovy Salade
04-12-2014, 11:55 AM
Most people view me being a furry as simply one of my interests such as my interest in science fiction and in no way have an opinion one way or the other about it. I hope that people don't ever encounter someone who is "disgusted" or "shocked" that you are a furry.

Kringg
04-16-2014, 11:46 AM
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Klavi
04-29-2014, 01:41 AM
Almost every friend whom I've told at this point is cool with it, because usually after telling them I make sure they know that (1) I am not part of "that" group of furries, and (2) that "that" group is a smaller percentage of the fandom as a whole. (Not bagging on "that" group in any way btw. We all have our fetishes, long as you're not practicing zoophilia.)

Most of the people in my group of friends use the internet enough to where they're somewhat desensitized to all the weirder stuff in it, so I don't really get a strong reaction out of anybody, as long as they're, erm, knowledgeable enough.

Batty Krueger
04-29-2014, 08:42 AM
A small aside: Furry should refer to your interests, not lifestyle or identity. It's like revealing to someone that you play Pokemon. Try not to find your identity in your fandom, it's not healthy. :P

I consider myself furry since I'm an illustrator that prefers drawing anthros and I build costumes. Anyone I show my art and costumes to (friends, family, strangers, old people) think it's cute! I think it's all in the way you talk about the furry fandom that turns people on or off. "I'm a furry" usually makes people think of the horrible stuff, whereas "This is what I draw/write" helps people appreciate you! :3
Im a lifestyler and I'm perfectly healthy. My whole life doesnt revolve around furry but most of it does. 90% of my friends irl are furries, my husband is a furry, and my roommate is a furry, most of my shirts are furry related, I go to as many cons as I can, own a fursuit that is my favorite possetion, have furry art all over my walls. For me its more than a hobby, so I guess its a lifestyle considering all those facts.

TheMysteriousL
04-29-2014, 11:15 AM
Most of my friends think it's some sort of subconscious sex with animals thing, whenever the topic comes up. I just sigh, say nothing, and keep drawing what I want my fursuit to look like.

Berlin Katze
05-06-2014, 10:46 AM
I don't think they care. They do think I am kinda weird but they accept me anyway. And even though they aren't furries, they love my art and my fursonas.

Toshabi
05-06-2014, 01:06 PM
Why does furry seem to be the only HOBBY/INTEREST where people knowing about it is a legitimate issue?


On topic, they ask questions when they see all my blow up furry dolls on my bed and my assortment of hug pillows of my favorite yiffs on my sofa. My boss also asks questions as to why I insist on wearing a tail to work. Mind you, he has the nerve to ask me this while he's wearing a bluetooth ear piece. Ugh, some people are just so closed minded.

Zeitzbach
05-07-2014, 01:34 AM
WHAT A BULLY THAT BOSS IS.

Fursecute, I say!

Angellothefox
05-07-2014, 04:09 PM
My mum said. "You already have the bronies"
Some one at college said "oh gosh"
I do not know about any more

- - - Updated - - -

Oh I think the person at collage said "All right"
Like he didn't give a thought

Toshabi
05-07-2014, 07:30 PM
My mum said. "You already have the bronies"
Some one at college said "oh gosh"
I do not know about any more

- - - Updated - - -

Oh I think the person at collage said "All right"
Like he didn't give a thought

Did you honestly go out of your way to tell these people?

Angellothefox
05-09-2014, 02:30 PM
Did you honestly go out of your way to tell these people?

Ah.. Yes I think pretty much

Willow
05-09-2014, 07:00 PM
No one really cares because I don't make it a constant talking point and I'm not a creep about it.

SirCoffeecup
05-10-2014, 08:23 AM
What friends?
What furriness?

Zeitzbach
05-10-2014, 10:24 AM
I long for the day that disgusting furry will roam the street in Asia.

But they were probably mistaken as food and eaten by the Chinese.

Toshabi
05-10-2014, 02:18 PM
Ah.. Yes I think pretty much

Do you come out to your friends about your other hobbies?

BlackElectric
05-10-2014, 05:45 PM
In my group of friends there are a few of us who are furries and some who aren't. The ones that aren't will playfully poke fun at us and the fandom but there's no ill will behind it or anything. They're okay with it/don't really care that much.

sassySloth
05-14-2014, 09:07 PM
Do you come out to your friends about your other hobbies?No way. They'd totally judge me if they knew I liked cycling. I have to keep it secret and awkward because I know no one will understand my love.

Krespo
05-15-2014, 01:31 PM
No way. They'd totally judge me if they knew I liked cycling. I have to keep it secret and awkward because I know no one will understand my love.

Ugh, you freak. Next you'll be telling me you like reading.

Ruggy
05-15-2014, 02:28 PM
Ugh, you freak. Next you'll be telling me you like reading.

I'm, uh.

reading-curious

will my mother still love me :C

Hewge
05-16-2014, 03:42 AM
Iwill my mother still love me :C

I know I won't.

Ruggy
05-16-2014, 11:29 AM
I know I won't.

You're not my real mom. >:C

Toshabi
05-16-2014, 02:42 PM
Ugh, you freak. Next you'll be telling me you like reading.

I.... I have to tell you something loafy.... I uh... I ...... I like my toast w..w.w....with a little bit of butter.... /)._.(\

Krespo
05-16-2014, 04:10 PM
I.... I have to tell you something loafy.... I uh... I ...... I like my toast w..w.w....with a little bit of butter.... /)._.(\

You are an abomination against the Lord and all right thinking people!
Meet me at my place, tell no one >///>

TheMysteriousL
05-16-2014, 07:27 PM
I.... I have to tell you something loafy.... I uh... I ...... I like my toast w..w.w....with a little bit of butter.... /)._.(\

UGH! Butter spreading HERETIC!

Everyone knows the proper spread are Jellies, Jams, and rarely preservatives!

Zeitzbach
05-16-2014, 08:59 PM
UGH! Butter spreading HERETIC!

Everyone knows the proper spread are Jellies, Jams, and rarely preservatives!

Purrrr
lease

Use Nutella.

sassySloth
05-16-2014, 10:49 PM
You are an abomination against the Lord and all right thinking people!
Meet me at my place, tell no one >///>Pssshhh. This fandom is OVER (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlGqN3AKOsA).

Kittiara
07-07-2014, 03:50 PM
Friends are usually either entirely chill with, totally indifferent to, or into the fact that I am furry. I don't have much by way of furry indicators; no pony merchandise or really blatant furry work. But I run in art circles and I conspicuously do anthropomorphic work under my real name as well as my alias. Being an artist, I could get away with not calling myself a furry despite my enjoyment and involvement with the fandom, but nah. I also have a costume, but plenty of non-furry friends think it's incredible, haha.

The only time I've run into 'trouble' is when you get the obvious neckbeard dude that is... irrationally hateful about furries. Like seriously says "they should all die" "they're so disgusting" (meanwhile this guy draws pornographic, misogynistic art of buxom women chained to walls like a shitty Frazetta knockoff). Most recently I met one of this breed, let him rant, then simply said, "I'm a furry." He shut down quickly and walked away.

All I can do is roll my eyes.

sassySloth
07-09-2014, 05:55 PM
I've recently re-embraced this side of my life. I've told a few of my ex-boyfriends over sporadic conversation, even an ex-girlfriend (that is its own story), and they've all been pretty understanding and accepting.

One of my closer ex's / comic book gamer buddy friend actually wants me to get a fursuit; thinks it (and I) would be really cute (in it). He thinks it should be a full one, though, and I only want a partial myself, so...

No issues or problems thus far; even a few folks online have sporadically noticed my avatar / handle changes (?!) here and there, been curious, and then actually interested or otherwise pleasant about the whole thing.That's pretty cool. I wish my friends were at least kind of engaged with my fur-ness instead of awkwardly pretending it's not there.

Whenever I bring up anything at all furry related an awkward silence falls amongst my friends forcing me to drop the subject.

Hewge
07-09-2014, 08:54 PM
That's pretty cool. I wish my friends were at least kind of engaged with my fur-ness instead of awkwardly pretending it's not there.

Whenever I bring up anything at all furry related an awkward silence falls amongst my friends forcing me to drop the subject.

Your friends sound weird. ;]

Gnarl
07-10-2014, 12:15 AM
I agree with HEWGE, if they were real friends they wouldn't care, they would accept you for who you are.

PapayaShark
07-10-2014, 03:52 AM
My friends don't give a fuck about it and I don't give fuck about it. Its just a hobby

Dreaming
07-11-2014, 08:02 PM
It's not really the kind of thing that comes up in our convos

VitalHEART
07-12-2014, 11:07 PM
An adorable thread. Nice to see how it is for all types of people.

I get mixed results.

A.) I was only secretly a furry until lo and behold another one walked through my front door (literally) and we kind of exploded in rainbows about it together and have been friends since. So that was a definite case of acceptance.

B.) [collegefriend] I learned the hard way that some people are just hardwired to hurt others. There was one I found a close acquaintance with that he just wanted to hurt furries, he didn't know if they made him feel sick or if he just thought it was wrong to sexualize animal people. Coming from the guy that talks about boobs and boners all day. He would rant and rant about them until one day I got tired of it and just told him that I was one, and because he knew what kind of person I was he couldn't believe that. He didn't associate me with them because I wasn't some bestiality obsessed horn dog and would burn me if he ever saw me in a fursuit....... that close acquaintanceship ended fast...

C. [coworker friends] At work when people realize what I am simply through a series of clues over many months of conversation (that, and occasionally accidentally walking in with a collar still on) they get all excited, but they are only excited because of the stereotypes they've heard and seen. Gratefully, because I tend to have several hours of the shift left with them it becomes a Q&A about furries with me and they leave the wiser about us and see us with quite a bit more respect. After that they don't care, because I'm still just a person and everyone's got a weird side, a dark one, and a light one. We're no different than any other large group out there, we have a our crazies, our deviants, our demons, our assholes, and our angels. They understand that, and we accept that about us. Heck they even go looking up furries and some have found good friends. :3

So mostly good feedback so far, I've only had 2 people who are like "eww, no." :3

sassySloth
07-13-2014, 08:37 AM
A.) I was only secretly a furry until lo and behold another one walked through my front door (literally) and we kind of exploded in rainbows about it together and have been friends since. So that was a definite case of acceptance.Awesome. I'm dying for the day when someone walks into my room, sees my chachkis, and is like "You a furry too dude?!!?"

Kipsy
07-18-2014, 01:10 AM
I only have one furry friend and that would be my boyfriend.
As for my non furry close friends they don't care that I enjoy the furry fandom.
Some of my school friends asked me what I was doing this summer so I just told them
that I'm going to a furry convention and this one girl who I have basically all my classes with this
past year was really into learning about furries. Haha, she even texted me a lot during the
con to ask me all the stuff I was doing. Another girl started talking about furries during a break and
I just spoke up and that I was a furry and her mind was blown. She said she
had envisioned furries being messed up individuals.

Sil
07-18-2014, 12:58 PM
I've had relative luck with my friends when it comes to the furry thing. I have one friend who is super supportive of it, two friends who "don't care", but one friend who seems to have started treating me like crap because of it. Luckily, I hardly see him anymore, so it's alright.

My sister, aunt and father know I'm a furry. My aunt has been super supportive, despite not knowing what it is. I'm able to talk to her about furry stuff, and she's not bothered by it. My sister was mostly the same way, but she wasn't quite as supportive of it. That is until I told my dad, who I knew would flip out about it. He wanted me to leave the fandom, so now I do furry stuff in secret again. He's also spread lies about it to my sister, who doesn't support me anymore, which is super frustrating.

Nich
07-21-2014, 02:48 AM
I've told a few of my friends about it when we were having our nerd conversations about conventions... I mentioned Anthrocon and a couple other conventions, but they didn't actually know what a furry is, and when I tried to enlighten them- y'know, explaining what a furry is, what defines a furry, misconceptions,etc.- they just kinda started talking amongst themselves or walked off, no interest whatsoever. They don't seem to care much though, and mainly seem to appreciate my art, so that's cool ^^. I've honestly gotten more hate out of liking stuff like MLP, or being atheist, and that was mostly ignorance from random kids at school :I I just ignore them and go back to whatever I was doing, mainly not making conversations. Most of the times anyone brings up furries to me is when they see me using the magic known as digital painting, and then that's usually like: "Is that a furry?"

Misconceptions, misconceptions everywhere...

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My sister, aunt and father know I'm a furry. My aunt has been super supportive, despite not knowing what it is. I'm able to talk to her about furry stuff, and she's not bothered by it. My sister was mostly the same way, but she wasn't quite as supportive of it. That is until I told my dad, who I knew would flip out about it. He wanted me to leave the fandom, so now I do furry stuff in secret again. He's also spread lies about it to my sister, who doesn't support me anymore, which is super frustrating.

Have you tried explaining to your dad what a furry is, away from what he might see it as?
You shouldn't have to do anything in secret, it's better to be up-and-front about stuff you like, even if someone like parents or other family don't really like it. I don't mean shoving artwork or videos in their face, or making a point to talk about it a lot, but just.. being casually furry.

Auriel Kitsu
07-25-2014, 08:31 AM
I don't really have anyone in my life that would particularly give a crap what I'm into but most of the acquaintances I have discussed it with assume that there is some kinky sex concept embedded in Furry culture. So it's the same thing I get when people find out that I'm into corsets and tightlacing. The first thing they assume is that I'm into the whole BDSM thing and like pain. I'm used to it because people assume all kinds of bull puke about me because I'm Black, because I'm Trans, because I'm female the list goes on and on. People just don't think very deeply about anything. Intellectually lazy and hold people that do think in contempt. <rant />

Matt Conner
07-28-2014, 01:30 AM
This weekend I smoked spice for the first time (don't do that by the way) and I got way too high. My friend Paul and I were talking and he just said "hey, tell me something about you I don't know", so I just blurted that I was a furry XD

He legitimately didn't care, although I couldn't convince him that it wasn't just some weird fetish I had. I think that's the first time I've ever told anybody but my S.O. that I'm a furry, except for people i've met online through the fandom. Most of the time if you have a friend and they actually like you, they won't judge you for what you're into as long as you're not a prick about it. Still, I feel no reason to share that fact with folks unless they ask me first.

sassySloth
07-28-2014, 06:18 PM
This weekend I smoked spice for the first time (don't do that by the way) and I got way too high. My friend Paul and I were talking and he just said "hey, tell me something about you I don't know", so I just blurted that I was a furry XDIS that like Dune spice? Haha.

Got to love those under the influence confessions :D

Matt Conner
07-29-2014, 01:22 AM
IS that like Dune spice? Haha.

Got to love those under the influence confessions :D

Yeeeaaah, it happens I guess, hehe. You'd have to get me pretty fucked up to admit to a friend that I'm a furry to be honest with you. Spice (aka K2) is a synthetic cannabanoid that can be often found in smoke shops. It's legal most places even though it's terrible for you, because it's a designer drug and every time it's banned, they just change it slightly so that it doesn't quite fall under the definition of the last law. The only reason I even smoked it was because I was already super stoned and nicky passed me a bowl of it without telling me what it was ><

I actually feel kind of relieved that at least one friend knows and is totally okay with it. Now I can gab about my partial suit and my newest commission with somebody x3

TheCaley
08-07-2014, 02:25 AM
Most of my friends are indifferent. I have only had one bad outcome of people finding out I was a furry. It spurred a lot of social anxiety in me. I never even told them. I was just drawing my character, because at the time I never really thought much of it. They oversaw it and they intimidated me for a few months. I don't bring it up nowadays in public, but I'm not afraid to be a furry in online or private spaces, mostly because it's easier to use the "don't like? Don't look." concept. In other words, they have to willingly make the choice to look at my blog and if they don't like the content, there's the ignore feature and the back button. Of course that's problematic when I want to roleplay with non-furry people, but that's another story.

As for family... I don't think anyone really knows. I don't talk about it with my parents - mainly due to miscommunication between us. They do know that my character is an anthropomorphic fox. My step-father has made a few 'comments' when he sees art of my character - it wasn't sexual art in nature if that's what your thinking - so now I kinda minimize the page when they are around. I don't have the luxury of having my computer in my room. The rest of my family, I never bother telling because I don't see the reason. It has no real value to any conversation we would have. I should note that 90% of my family are over the age of 30, or under the age of 15. I don't see any reason to bring it up, as it has no relevance.

SweetSushi
10-16-2014, 05:22 AM
I am pretty open minded and what you see is what you get. I am not going all secretive about what I like, if any I scream it! I am pretty hyper and ppl will know pretty fast who I am or what I like ^_^ nothing to be ashamed of!

As for the furry fandom, I only just knew of it after my study, so I didn't had the oh tell my classmates situation. And even if that was the situation I would just go like Heyy guys look at this this is awesome! I usually have that effect on ppl that when I like something I get other ppl excited ^_^ lol

As for my friends, when I experienced my first furry convention I told them all about it! Like I do with all the hobbies and interest I have. Heck they even came along with us the next furry convention, one of them even got a fursuit from me :P It was fun. But sadly, I lost my best friend. It had nothing to do with the furrys btw, it was just something that our friendship was not the same anymore, and that was kinda sad so we just stopped seeing each other >____< I guess that happens when you get older and all that <_<

Now when it comes to family. It's not like I have to come out of a closet and tell them, my whole life I live very open and have no secrets. I am pretty straight forward with things. So this was no exception! When I started drawing furries and sewing furrsuits, all my family could say is that they like my work. And nothing negative about the fandom itself. They don't care rlly :P Its all good, and we all have our own interest ^_^ (its not rlly a lifestyle I took, but just another thing I like, a hobby) I just wish more ppl could experience the same. I understand that some have family members that can look weird at you, but srrsly how close minded are they? Its especially sad when parents are all weird about it. But I guess that's part of growing up, parents and children have many differences! The key is to let go and do what you like without hurting other ppl.

I can only give one advice, pleasseeee be honest about yourself and who you are. Do not pretend to be something else so ppl will like you. You are only lying to yourself and can never truly be happy with yourself or the things you enjoy. Of course you do not have to force others to like the same, but don't be all secretly over it either. Most of them prob don't care about it anyway and you guys just go on with your life and friendship (or not, I mean who want to be friends with someone who can't accept who you are anyway, to each there own right!) ^_^ OR maybe your friends will totally like it too and you will make a great discovery and can have twice the fun! I am not the only one who experienced this btw!

If I said something weird or hurtful, just slap me in the face! I have a big mouth, but just trying to help idk :3

Harbinger
10-16-2014, 08:18 PM
Dont have any IRL to tell.

sassySloth
10-17-2014, 06:42 AM
Dont have any IRL to tell.Wow :cry:

Dude my friends ignore the hell out of my fur-ness. It's been steadily increasing, like I have shirts with anthros on them and art on my walls now and they just stolidly avoid the topic. I think they're scared they might like it :laugh:

SweetSushi
10-17-2014, 02:20 PM
I think they're scared they might like it :laugh:

Hahahaha I like that thought :P lol

Ruggy
10-17-2014, 02:27 PM
One of my best friends from high school went on this anti-porn rant, how it's horrible and kills relationships, and my best friend from college just laughed at the whole spectacle and asked me, "She doesn't know what you draw for money, does she?" So at least one of my friends not only knows I draw sexy fox people, but, like, sexy fox people, and finds it more acceptable than the hobby of... judging other people's hobbies.

One of my other friends has since said, "I own every album ICP has ever released. I can't judge other people's interests."

It's still a lot of indifference on the whole. I run with a lot of burlesque, burner, and/or hippie types who really don't give a shit what you do in your free time as long as you're not a dick about it or a dick about what they do in their spare time. It's nice.

Antumbra
10-17-2014, 02:52 PM
I honestly haven't told any of my friends. I'm sure they wouldn't mind, but part of me would rather not try it, just in case. I'm paranoid enough everyone secretly hates me, I don't need to give my brain more ammo. :laugh:

In all seriousness, it never has came up. Many have seen me draw anthro stuff, and they just go back to doing stuff because they aren't interested in my art unless it is for them.

McFloof
10-17-2014, 04:42 PM
I have told a few people since I was found out and explained to what the fandom was. My mother, a couple best friends, and the one who found me out.

My mom reacted indifferently. One of my best friends kinda said whatever and *shrugged,* the other kind of freiked out because he thought I hated the fandom for some reason (because everyone kept saying I was and I was saying I wasn't and stuff like that). As for the one who found me out he kind of sent me a Facebook message after I posted one of my earlier drawings and was like "Are you a furry?" and I responded defensively and yeah...I'm a furry and I'm proud of it! xD

Nightmareish
10-17-2014, 04:59 PM
One of my other friends has since said, "I own every album ICP has ever released. I can't judge other people's interests."
These are the best kinds of friends. I used to be super elitist about my interests until I realized I'm a massive furry. Because "I'm not like those!! furries". But I am. I am those furries.

Saiko
10-26-2014, 01:59 PM
My roommate saw my Steam profile pic when he accepted my Steam friend request. He paused for a moment and went"... are you a furry? o.o"
"Maaaaaybe :P"

Now he occasionally pokes fun at me for it, like when I complained about the Khajiit in an Oblivion character mod . x3

Jess Quna
10-27-2014, 06:07 AM
I might not be considered a furry furry (if that makes sense) I don't really busy myself with it all the time. I have a 'sona but she's as much part of me as I am of her, she just happens to be a wolf *shrugs*
I sometimes draw furry stuff, not because I want to draw furry specifically, but because I want to draw and that's my inspiration sometimes.
Some friends don't know I'm a furry but that are also usually the friends who don't know I draw. The ones who've seen my art know I dabble at it and I just started explaining what furry is. They grow up in the same era as I do, if something exists, there is porn of it so they don't really care or freak out because of the things that could be happening (they would have to react like that too often as I watch anime as well and for some people anime=hentai).
And one of my best friends, also happens to be my ex who got me into it so it's not like he can complain XD
My parents just shrug because they decided long ago that I've got a screw loose and my mother even scans my drawings for me so... meh XD

Kaedal
10-27-2014, 11:51 AM
They haven't really reacted. Most of my friends know of it. A few fire off a joke or two every once in a while. I do get questions about it, which I'm more than happy to respond to. I've only encountered one person whom I perceived to be pretty vocal about his hatred for it, but I didn't have much contact with him so backing away wasn't a problem.

sassySloth
10-27-2014, 08:39 PM
A non furry that I met at my friend's house apparently knew who I was from my Tumblr (scarily small world)... She asked me the most hilarious question: "Can I buy one of your cute fuzzies with the huge thighs!?!?"

She was serious because I am now $20 mmm richer. :BWow that is hilarious.

Manna
10-29-2014, 02:14 PM
I don't need friends they disappoint me

Kirito
11-26-2014, 09:53 AM
Yeah, I've lost a couple friends because of my "furr-ness". I generally don't talk about it, but when they see me drawing they question it, and alot of them think it's cool, but some people think it's weird.

moxi
11-27-2014, 12:38 AM
"so, you like, fuck dogs or something?"

paroapockinroo
12-09-2014, 10:43 AM
Most of my friends are used to it by now, and I joke about it enough myself that they know I don't even take myself seriously so they don't mind. My closer friends accept and know that it obviously isn't just a fetish, but really moreso a lifestyle, though some less close friends continue to uncomfortably joke about it as though it is entirely sexual. I openly express myself around my close friends, though I still have some that I don't talk about it around because it makes them uncomfortable / even angry. I haven't lost anyone yet because of it, but most of the people I befriend are already into equally as "weird" scenes and are tolerant people.

Matt Conner
12-16-2014, 12:21 AM
I have yet to get fucked up enough to tell anybody except Paul, but that's cuz Paul's more screwed up in the head than I am. On a positive note, he thinks my fursona is cute <3

NovaCaine
12-22-2014, 07:05 AM
Thankfully none of my friends care haha
one of my good friends introduced me to the fandom when were both 15. She since has left the fandom and I obviously stayed :P
Because of this a few of my other friends know about it and don't seem to care.
Heck, even my family knows and doesn't care (Great full <3)

Nightpaws
12-22-2014, 11:17 PM
My friends are all either furries themselves, or completely down to earth and cool with it as I don't make a big deal about it. I have surprisingly decent friends actually come to think of it :)

Wishn
12-23-2014, 05:48 AM
I have not consider to say in such a way that it was different than the other things I enjoy (knit, cosplay, steampunk for naming some). Much of my family is aware I draw "creatures an monsters" and make "cool costumes" I think if of any person my father would be disgruntled as he is not around to know exactly. He prefer I do things most peoples my age do like go to club an parties (he was shocked to know I enjoy knitting an purchase a sewing machine so I assume his response would be same to that).
As for my friends two, one has hobbies similar to drawing animals (tho we rarely hang out les' she want things) an the other has no difference to it. Even my dentist, some professors an people of library enjoy seeing picture/photos the monsters I make.

Overall no one I have met (spare for possibility of my Father) cares an sees it as just another thing I do, yes as a large things I do as I draw and make often but nothing to deem different. I guess is interesting as also they know what what the furfandom is (having see the CSI episodes an 1000 ways to die and now the MFF news incident) but see them as not me if that makes sense.

Damian
12-25-2014, 02:20 PM
My coworkers don't give a shit. There's playful jabs and that's about it. I don't really go out of my way to tell people because it's not necessary. They know i like everything wolf related and am a nerd (though compared to them, I'm mundane)

Nillou
12-27-2014, 06:38 AM
Oh man, only two of my IRL friends know and that's because they're also furries 8'))

Eduard
03-21-2015, 06:57 PM
I do not talk about the furfandom in real life. I personally do not consider it a subject worthy enough to be brought up, especially to persons who have no correlation or knowledge of it.

Not to mention that a lot of people around here are entirely alien to this concept of "furry". Talking to them about the furfandom would be tantamount to a Mormon preaching Christianity to an Ancient Egyptian.

Ace
03-22-2015, 07:33 PM
I don't really hide the fact that I'm a furry but I also don't go out of my way to mention it or talk about it unless initiated by someone else (unless it's social media or what have you). Most people I meet probably are completely unaware there's a whole subculture of this stuff, anyway.

Levi
03-22-2015, 07:50 PM
I don't typically consider it worth bringing up.

My closest friends are furries, because we found each other in the fandom, so they know of course. Outside, sure, if friends ask me why I like animal people then I'll tell them. Family knows, and my old church knows.

Really, it's not usually relevant.

Hewge
03-22-2015, 10:37 PM
What friends?

Xarox
03-26-2015, 02:02 PM
Most of my friends share my interest. The others just see it as another hobby I have.
It's not that much of a big deal neither for me nor my friends so they don't 'react' that much to it at all. Might also be because my 'furry-ness' is rather limited and mostly sticks to an interest in the artwork and having a special liking for wolves. Even my co-workers and some of clients know I draw and that I like wolves and anthropomorphic characters - they are totally cool with that.

foussiremix
03-27-2015, 04:02 PM
My school friend doesnt even know what a furry is.
But he dont cares about that.

Naresie
03-27-2015, 05:31 PM
Well, to be honest, usually I don't really bring it up very often, partially due to the bad reputation that (sadly) some furries may havel but that isn't my biggest factor.. I usually don't really mention it because I have come to realize how utterly annoying it is when people approach me and immediately feel the urge to shove their beliefs and personal thoughts or views down my throat, especially when not necessary, which is why I only bring such stuff up at moments I feel are strategically good, and when it flows well in a conversation.

Most reactions I have gotten is either people not really knowing what a furry is (as other people in this thread seem to have experienced too), general confusion, a brief moment of surprise that is then followed of just a general shrug and then we just go on with our day, and utter acceptance, from for example my nonfurry boyfriend (who is also an otherkin by the way) that seems to actually appreciate that quality about me.. and encourages it, but not in a forceful way. He even agreed that we could combine our money together sometime and buy me a fursuit, yay!

Only more or less "bad" reaction I have gotten is when a playful jab at insinuating I am a furry, as a test for my mother, she kinda got confused and then more or less just said to me "You.. you won't be some freak that dresses weird in the street, will you..?", but I managed to calm the situation down and assure her of this, and I am more or less ok with it since she is not exactly young and does not understand all this, and since she is also a Jehovah's Witness (Don't worry, I am not criticizing religious people, just that this has led to her in general being a bit biased in some ways). So yeah.. things are pretty ok, I would say.

Eagle GodHeart
04-21-2015, 01:01 PM
well mine either laugh, get a stupid smirk on their face, or just dont know what a furry is.

Malevolentmask
04-21-2015, 02:37 PM
Eh, my interests are kind of all over. For the most part though my friends and family understand that I love drawing creatures and monsters soooo I just leave it at that. I'm not actually sure if I would define myself as "fur" based. I'm kind of just "all over the place" based. XD

Zeitzbach
04-22-2015, 03:52 PM
The same reaction I would have had if they were on the opposing side.

"Ew
Furries
ewewewew"

And cut all ties.

Feel good everytime.

Umbra_Exe
04-24-2015, 07:47 PM
Not many of my friends know about my furry art, mostly because I don't show many of them my art in general. .w.,
Out of those who do know, two of them were the first to tell me that they were furries, and that's why I felt alright with showing them my art.

I think a couple of my other non-furry friends have seen my anthro stuff. Mostly they just think my art's nice. One of them did ask about the "weird" side, but I just explained that a lot of furries just like the art in general, not necessarily the "adult" stuff.

So in general, most who do know are okay with it. The one guy who did react seems alright with it now, too.

hotboychina
05-04-2015, 03:07 PM
most of my friends are furry trash so i dont get crazy reactions

besides that literally everyone i know knows im a furry
my gf says she doesnt understand how ppl like furries or how ppl like the nsfw stuff but never anything rude

i did however know someone a while back who decided me being a furry was bad and he couldnt write for me anymore after probably an entire yr knowing i am one

Viciviser
05-13-2015, 08:46 AM
I brought up a little of my furry interests here and there with friends to see what they knew about it. The few that know just have barely touched on it through the internet and assume that it's a freaky fetish part of the world wide web, but at the same time they are not terrified of me liking the art and the subculture itself. I even mentioned more recently that I've been to furcons in Dallas and there was no real comment about it other than "Oh you did?" And just kind of nods of recognition. Many of them go to Anime or Comic cons so it's not much of a difference.

My close family have always known me to draw "animal-people" and I have way before I knew that "furry" was a subculture group. I was influenced a lot by fantasy and mythology. I've still been nervous to mention things directly furry-related to some family because I know they wouldn't really understand it at all. So it's not something I bother to inform them on. But I still show them my clean anthropomorphic art at times.

LazerMaster5
08-23-2015, 09:39 PM
I don't talk about furries much IRL, as most people don't seem to know or really care what a furry is. A few of my friends know about my love for animal people, and one knows that I like the pr0nz (I joked about shark dicks once.) My dad knows I like anthro animals, but I doubt he knows what the term furry means, or that there is a whole subculture devoted to such. I avoid using furry terms to avoid confusion.

Kipsy
08-24-2015, 01:55 AM
I don't volunteer the information that I'm a furry unless I know the person well. I used to just tell people, but since then I've had a negative reaction that irritated me so I just keep it to myself. My close friends know and they could careless. My mom knows and she doesn't care either.

Joybit
08-24-2015, 08:04 AM
Let's be fair, my friends and are a group of mostly minorities. Races, sexualities, genders, relationships, me being a fur just makes me more part of the group (along with being half Canadian, also see gender identity.) We take equal opportunity to rip on each other for our differences, but no one even bats an eye at me being a fur. I've already made it clear up front that I am a fur and if someone doesn't want to be my friend because of that, then I don't need them. If my friends show any resentment towards me it's usually a semi-sarcastic expression of jealousy because my game collection is pretty rad XD